There is no simple solution for a lack of motivation. Even
after beating it, the problem reappears at the first sign of failure. The key
is understanding your thoughts and how they drive your emotions. By learning
how to nurture motivating thoughts, neutralize negative ones, and focus on the
task at hand, you can pull yourself out of a slump before it gains momentum.
Reasons
We Lose Motivation
There are 3 primary reasons we lose motivation.
1. Lack of confidence – If you don’t believe you can succeed, what’s the
point in trying?
2. Lack of focus – If you don’t know what you want, do you really want
anything?
3. Lack of direction – If you don’t know what to do, how can you be
motivated to do it?
How to
Boost Confidence
The first motivation killer is a lack of confidence. When
this happens to me, it’s usually because I’m focusing entirely on what I want
and neglecting what I already have. When you only think about what you want,
your mind creates explanations for why you aren’t getting it. This creates
negative thoughts. Past failures, bad breaks, and personal weaknesses dominate
your mind. You become jealous of your competitors and start making excuses for
why you can’t succeed. In this state, you tend to make a bad impression, assume
the worst about others, and lose self confidence.
The way to get out of this thought pattern is to focus on
gratitude. Set aside time to focus on everything positive in your life. Make a
mental list of your strengths, past successes, and current advantages. We tend
to take our strengths for granted and dwell on our failures. By making an
effort to feel grateful, you’ll realize how competent and successful you
already are. This will rejuvenate your confidence and get you motivated to
build on your current success.
It might sound strange that repeating things you already
know can improve your mindset, but it’s amazingly effective. The mind distorts
reality to confirm what it wants to believe. The more negatively you think, the
more examples your mind will discover to confirm that belief. When you truly
believe that you deserve success, your mind will generate ways to achieve it.
The best way to bring success to yourself is to genuinely desire to create
value for the rest of the world.
Developing
Tangible Focus
The second motivation killer is a lack of focus. How often
do you focus on what you don’t want, rather than on a concrete goal? We
normally think in terms of fear. I’m afraid of being poor. I’m afraid no one
will respect me. I’m afraid of being alone. The problem with this type of
thinking is that fear alone isn’t actionable. Instead of doing something about
our fear, it feeds on itself and drains our motivation.
If you’re caught up in fear based thinking, the first step
is focusing that energy on a well defined goal. By defining a goal, you
automatically define a set of actions. If you have a fear of poverty, create a
plan to increase your income. It could be going back to school, obtaining a
higher paying job, or developing a profitable website. The key is moving from
an intangible desire to concrete, measurable steps.
By focusing your mind on a positive goal instead of an
ambiguous fear, you put your brain to work. It instantly begins devising a plan
for success. Instead of worrying about the future you start to do something
about it. This is the first step in motivating yourself to take action. When
know what you want, you become motivated to take action.
Developing
Direction
The final piece in the motivational puzzle is direction. If
focus means having an ultimate goal, direction is having a day-to-day strategy
to achieve it. A lack of direction kills motivation because without an obvious
next action we succumb to procrastination. An example of this is a person who
wants to have a popular blog, but who spends more time reading posts about
blogging than actually writing articles.
The key to finding direction is identifying the activities
that lead to success. For every goal, there are activities that pay off and
those that don’t. Make a list of all your activities and arrange them based on
results. Then make a make an action plan that focuses on the activities that
lead to big returns.
Keeping track of your most important tasks will direct your
energy towards success. When my motivation starts to wane, I regain direction
by creating a plan that contains two positive actions. The first one should be
a small task you’ve been meaning to do, while the second should be a long-term
goal. I immediately do the smaller task. This creates positive momentum. After
that I take the first step towards achieving the long-term goal. Doing this
periodically is great for getting out of a slump, creating positive
reinforcement, and getting long-term plans moving.
Remember, if you must fulfill your dream you must stay
motivated.
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